We strive to create a safe, compassionate, and professional environment for everyone. We do not discriminate, shame, put-down, or harshly judge. We strive to provide quality care to all regardless of religion, gender, sexual orientation, race, creed, color, ethnicity, national origin, gender expression, age, height, weight, physical or mental ability, veteran status, military obligations, and marital status.
Everyone deserves to be given our best work and attention.
Frequently asked questions:
1. Do any therapists at bStill provide Christian Counseling?
Yes! But first let’s clarify what “Christian counseling” means for us. For us, it means that many of our clinicians and partners have specialized training, skills, and personal experiences that are extremely helpful in understanding Christian backgrounds and treating the unique concerns of Christians. bStill clinicians are sensitive to the complexity of the spiritual experience. We understand that doubt, anger, joy, fear, and peace and all exist in a person at once.
2. What would a Christian expect at bStill?
A Christian could expect his or her therapist to utilize the best practices in evidence-based therapy in combination with the best practices in theology and spiritual formation. Truly integrative work incudes creating safety for clients to address any and all issues that affect them. We are committed to providing this safety.
Clients seeking Bible/Prayer only would not be the best fit for the type of work we do, but we would happily provide referrals and/or coordinate with faith leaders or spiritual directors who may do this type of work.
3. I’ve had bad experience in church, and I’m not sure I want to have another one. If I don’t go to church anymore, or if I’m angry at God, or if I don’t want to talk about God, what will happen? I don’t want to feel worse or get hurt.
We don’t want that either.
We are committed to creating an environment of safety and respect. We are firmly against spiritual “bullying” and shaming. The Bible is filled with hundreds of stories of imperfect people finding their way through life- and we hold that today we all are no different. We are comfortable in the mess, and it’s an honor to provide a safe, respectful place for our clients to explore their spiritual life in addition to their mental, relational, physical life.
Sometimes Christians (and others) have had shaming and hurtful experiences in their faith communities or in pastoral counseling. We are sensitive to this particular type of pain, and we seek to take care of those that have been hurt.
4. I love my faith and I don’t want to work with a secular therapist who doesn’t understand me, or who doesn’t respect my faith.
Many therapists in our community are hesitant to allow clients to discuss their feelings and thoughts about faith, worrying that “religion has no place in therapy,” or that they might feel personally threatened by their own confusion or conflict in these matters. However, bStill providers believe that if it is important to you, it is important to discuss and understand.
If you would like to work with a therapist that shares your spiritual background- and is able to respect your experiences and perspective- please share this when you make your first appointment.
5. Do you guys just work with religious problems?
6. Why would a Christian want to know a therapist’s stance on spirituality and faith?
At times, a crisis of faith is a major part of the problem one wishes to address in treatment.
Other times, faith is in the background, although one may like to work with a clinician who has some understanding of that background.
Other times, Christian leaders and church members might find it difficult to share deep hurts with their own communities. Maybe you have gone through a divorce, death, or a battle with substance abuse. Maybe you are a leader who is struggling with personal issues or a crisis of faith. Or, maybe you feel an absence of faith and are wondering what that means for you. All of these questions, and more, are welcome in our office. We strive to help you define your next steps and to gain support and clarity.
Some folks have had very negative and shaming experiences in sharing their hearts about their spiritual life. Maybe a family member, a church leader, or a spouse has indicated that you are bad or wrong or unforgivable. Maybe your faith tradition was used as a weapon to hurt you or control you. Maybe you’ve tried “Christian Counseling” that was unskilled, shallow, or abusive. We will not be a fit for every Christian, but for many, we offer exactly what they need.
We don’t assume we know how you feel, and we don’t assume we know what faith means to you.
We invite questions and often know of resources that are helpful to you. Christian tradition is rich and includes multiple ways to gain understanding, connection, and greater faith. We may suggest trying several spiritual formation practices like prayer, guided scripture study, study of theology, compassionate spiritual direction, elements of monastic traditions, blessings, or spiritual direction.